The Power of the Bad Mother

January 23, 2019

 

Sometimes I think human happiness can be measured in the distance between the mothers we wanted - the ones who would love us and accept us unconditionally and the mothers we actually got. 

 

Some of us were lucky and we were born to mothers who loved us, supported us and accepted us for who we were. The majority of people got okay mothers, mothers who were human and flawed but gave us their love freely, not perfect, but good enough that they would feel loved most of the time. But an unfortunate few got bad mothers, mothers who were harmful, damaged human beings. Most of them did the best they could, which was often still damaging to their children.  It isn't our place to judge them. It takes too much life energy and their paths are painful. They typically don't know happiness.

 

The bad mother, holds a tremendous amount of power in the lives of her children. Her power comes from the hope they hold onto that she will someday give them the  love and acceptance they craved.  To  take back their power from the bad mother they must take over the role of mother in their own lives. They must truly feel compassion, unconditional love, and acceptance for themselves.

 

Daily Mantra: I choose to be loved and accepted. I fill my life with people who love and accept me. I  heal myself and offer myself unconditional love, compassion and acceptance. I create my life. I create myself. I am my own mother.  I am loved. 

 

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